A Message from NANCY
The idea behind THE PINK DOLPHIN is to touch upon the topic of bullying, which is a topic many can relate to, including myself. I went through much bullying in school and learned some lessons from it.
I have sort of a different perspective in my story than the usual villain and hero as many portray it. The reality of bullying is that there are two personalities colliding, each comes from a different frame of mind.
The thought behind it is to know the characters and why each think the way they do. The character of Christa was chosen with my daughter in mind and her adventurous personality. The character of Sam is a typical, what people might call, bully. But similar to many bullies not fully understanding in its entirety his or her impact on others. In the book, Sam was surprised to find he was bullying others, only when he felt the fear himself did he understand his behavior.
The actual bully can be anyone. There are no physical characteristics that precede it, you may be surprised who can fall into that category. It is the mentality he or she has about himself and others, where he or she believes they are entitled to behave a certain way towards people with differences. Many times because of beliefs and upbringing they experienced and learned in their life, however misguided they were. Still, the most important element really is how the person feels about themselves and many times it is not good. They act out to make themselves feel better or superior in some way. This sense of entitlement is of course false and deep inside they know it.
It is what the bully represents that is understood by the book and its message to stand strong but cautiously toward bullies and do not be afraid to ask for help, though help can be found in many places. Friends, parents, teachers or maybe you on your own can work a solution to the problem. I feel both people in a bullying situation can be helped and educated towards stopping and being free from the intimidation.
Lastly, when you live with a disability or difference you tend to experience a lot of teasing and bullying. Eventually, through education of your civil rights and the laws that should protect you, you learn to seek help, find help and stand up for yourself through the many challenges that life will put you through.
Thank you,
Nancy Fabian
I have sort of a different perspective in my story than the usual villain and hero as many portray it. The reality of bullying is that there are two personalities colliding, each comes from a different frame of mind.
The thought behind it is to know the characters and why each think the way they do. The character of Christa was chosen with my daughter in mind and her adventurous personality. The character of Sam is a typical, what people might call, bully. But similar to many bullies not fully understanding in its entirety his or her impact on others. In the book, Sam was surprised to find he was bullying others, only when he felt the fear himself did he understand his behavior.
The actual bully can be anyone. There are no physical characteristics that precede it, you may be surprised who can fall into that category. It is the mentality he or she has about himself and others, where he or she believes they are entitled to behave a certain way towards people with differences. Many times because of beliefs and upbringing they experienced and learned in their life, however misguided they were. Still, the most important element really is how the person feels about themselves and many times it is not good. They act out to make themselves feel better or superior in some way. This sense of entitlement is of course false and deep inside they know it.
It is what the bully represents that is understood by the book and its message to stand strong but cautiously toward bullies and do not be afraid to ask for help, though help can be found in many places. Friends, parents, teachers or maybe you on your own can work a solution to the problem. I feel both people in a bullying situation can be helped and educated towards stopping and being free from the intimidation.
Lastly, when you live with a disability or difference you tend to experience a lot of teasing and bullying. Eventually, through education of your civil rights and the laws that should protect you, you learn to seek help, find help and stand up for yourself through the many challenges that life will put you through.
Thank you,
Nancy Fabian
